Journey of self
I wanted the title of the post to be more Sade than that. Close enough I guess.
0.5 and I were discussing yesterday, a topic we had been on before, can't remember when.
I guess it started with some grumbling. Guys were getting edgy, nervous, fidgety; the females were getting too comfortable in their roles as tormentors/girlfriends. We wanted out. They were starting to act like it is their duty to keep a guy in line, have him doing what they want when they want. Feel me?
We went about convincing ourselves as to why we had to head for the hills, and fast. We owed it to our sanity to do so.
This is how you get to our predicament, which I think is not exclusive to us. First its all stars and bright lights, and not necessarily in the club. Then they go about convincing you that you are the one. Like it or not, you start getting used to the idea. You mellow. You say those crazy words back, knowing you don't mean them, but you don't want to rock the boat. Rock the boat? More like Titanic the boat on some iceberg. Big crash. Get it?
Before you know it you are spending all your time together. Of course you are not comfortable with it but you hope she will create her own space around you in time. Your place becomes hers. You go along (not all of us, just the silly ones like myself). Then you lose all control as to your movements. You have to inform this someone (or a couple of them) where you are, how long you'll be there (we've done this before eh?). Anyways, you get the drift.
We reflected on back when we could just hook up. Boys only. We could drink ourselves silly, watch some soccer, head off on any tangent we chose, chase members of the opposite sex without feeling guilty, take as many phone numbers as you wanted without having to hit the delete button on your inbox, sent messages, call register, message counter, call durations; being wary of when she would call, is the music too loud? having to run out of the club when she called cause you lied that you were at home, having to come up with endearing messages when she gets it in her head that you've made her mad when she is actually insane, having to buy ice cream, thinking of your evening excuse early in the morning. We remembered when a change of plans was just that, not an invitation to start another round of mean mugging and the 'silent treatment'. I didn't have to be at a specific place at a specific time, sending messages by the minute when you were late, updating her as to your monumental, Herculean efforts to get to where you were supposed to be just to find that she hadn't got there herself. Waiting for eons for her as she takes her time making her hair, when she could have done that much earlier. My money was mine to give to KBL and BAT, plus whomever else I chose. I didn't have to bring someone along with me to distribute to the said parties, without this person ever giving me the chance to give out her money to the aforementioned entities.
Aaaaah.
I have started the journey. I want to re-discover that guy. The guy who had his own time. Weekday or weekend. Could take off to wherever, whenever.
It should take us about a month or two to get there. I say goodbye to all the 20 year olds, all the "Please Call Me"s, all of you who only call when you get bored and are looking for someone to foot the bill and give you a laugh. All of you who do that voodoo that you do, get me relaxed and complacent, then try and sneak into my head, trying to figure me out. Claiming to know me and what I feel.
Wonder how I got here in the first place? Yup, when I took that number and called. And called again. If you can't close the deal in one week, 4get her. After you close the deal, you have two weeks and then hit the Eject button. Make sure you press the one that will propel you out of there on rocket fuel. Out of that plane! You'd rather hurtle earthwards without a parachute
like Governor Schwarzenegger (is that the spelling?). You are safer that way. I remember a far wiser friend of mine imparting this dose of wisdom ages ago. Sadly, I never listen. Have I learnt? Maybe, maybe not. Seeing as to I fall in love every time I turn around, its going to be a tough couple of months. Ooh, there are so many fine women out there.
The journey starts.