What to do
Some while ago i said that i nowadays use the word love all the time. Yes it has paid of handsomely, wait, beautifully! It was like a master key, openinng all manner of offerings my way. One of the good things to come out of it was this chick who had broken off her engagement a few months ago but they were now sorting out their issues for eventual marriage (i guess). She's hot, has the best dimples i've seen, both her cheeck dimples & one on her left thigh. So i said i loved her just for the sake, i kept repeating it. All the while she was making up with her man she was also with me, & some how i also came to fancy her more than just an erection-breaker.
Drama started when she said she wants we talk, that phrase 'lets meet & talk' always has consequences! It reminds me of the days when the class bully or a teacher told you 'utaona'! pure dread! As i was fiddling with my drink waiting for the reprimand or complaint she innocently asks if i really love her, without any hint of hesitation i reply that i love her very much to which she starts this crazy vibe that froze my marbles. Basically she says she loves me too & says she wants me for keeps & all i have to say is i want her too & she will break it off with her fiancee! what weighty matters for a simpleton like me! shit! I like her but i know i'm no good for her in terms of settling down & i wud not kill her chance at marriage just coz she knows how to straddle & ride. For a chick to want to break of an engagement for me must really mean she feels something.
Thats one of the most difficult situations i've had to wiggle my way out of, needless to say i literally pushed her towards her man. She was shocked that a guy who claims to love her would want to run to the hills when she throws herself at him for a serious relationship.
The moral of this story, do not use that word love!
posted by Dede @ 23:17
4 Comments:
Common mistake my friend. Remember DeNiro in that movie Ronin ..he says 'I never walk into a place I can't see a way out' ...or something like that.
Now the way I see it, there are several options. The first being what I call 'the hard goodbye', wait, the 'no goodbye'. Basically you just vanish. Change locales, countries even.
Another one would be ...lets say this scholarship that you have ehhh been offered in [place of choice] in say 9 months time..hence, can't commit right now ...
Another one would be ...after like 4 shots of neat (like 90degrees vodka), you start a story thus:
I was in this bash, sorry I didn't tell you but I really effed up. Look away and pause for effect. You see there is this family friend .....I am in a f**** unbelievable bind! (bang table)
Lets have a Tusker soon ....hehehehe
Keep on being reckless with peoples hearts, your turn will come young whippersnapper !
Dede... that word will make u as dead as a dudu
Malipo ni hapa hapa. other than when you say 'i also came to fancy her ' looks like your guilty conscience has kicked in. All the time you were with her did you not think 'you wud kill her chance at marriage'. Now its time to do the right thing. Get out of this situation as cleanly as possible.
The way I see it you have two options. The first is to be the bad guy. Tell her that you really do love her and she might even be the one but you are not sure you want to settle down and you need some time to make up your mind about it but being with her right now makes it very hard for you to really search your soul. You therefore need some time (a few months) to work things out with yourself.
The other option is to turn the tables on her. Lets be honest she is no angel herself. She has been seeing two men at the same time. Telling both of you she loves you and wants to be with you. She even got you to fancy her. She has caused you a lot of pain and suffering the last few months. Now that you think about it you have been miserable, you have been carrying a heavy load in your heart - the love of your life loves someone else. You have cried yourself to sleep many nights torturing yourself by wondering if she is with the other guy. She has gotten you to hate someone you have never met. She has gotten you so twisted that you do not trust that she can ever love you enough. You have given her your all your body mind and soul and she has been sharing herself with someone else. She causes you more joy than you ever thought possible but she also causes you more pain than you have ever felt.
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