Monday, May 18, 2009

Of triangles and elephants

Every so often you bump into one of those situations. Those awkward ones. I seem to be recalling a lot of them lately. Perhaps a sign that I should be making new memories.

It can get interesting though. When you know she's having something or other with a guy you happen to know. A guy who happens to be married. He knows that you know. You know that she knows that you know. The doctor knows that everyone knows. In fact, the wife probably also knows. But no one says a thing. If it wasn't so tragic it would be absolutely hilarious.

At every opportunity you make a point of not mentioning the obvious. Now I'm not one to judge, even when I have an opinion. If you want to have a thing with a married man... well... Do you have to, really. There are sufficient numbers of single guys for you not to. So Kamikaze was all but written off this list, and aJamaa may or may not be on a slippery slope leading down a hill or something like that. Still plenty of guys out there. I tell it to any chic who'll listen. There's one who actually enquired about these [good] friends I kept mentioning and wondered if I could hook her up. She needed to get laid. Her words. One for another post.

Anyway. As I was saying. I see no need to have a thing with a married someone. There are tonnes of people you can have a thing with, casual or otherwise. Perhaps it's that thing called love [which I know nothing about]. No amount of rational, unisex logic can help you out with that. There surely are no good outcomes. You either oust the wife and become the step-mom, or go your way 7 years later when the thing finally ends and the guy sticks with the wife. Turn into one of those G10 folks. Even if you convince yourself that there are no "good" men, you could still do perfectly fine on your own. Bury yourself in work. It's amazing how effective fatigue can be at inducing apathy. Or you could do the partying thing. There'll be no shortage of guys there. And you don't even have to marry them.

But. People like what they like. That's just how it is. So until there's some kind of seismic event, you just do like the elephant isn't sitting in the room.


Blogger aJamaa said...

I get amused when am with a guy and his mistress. If I see an elephant in the room and work hard at not saying the wrong thing e.g. asking the guy about how his kids are can you imagine how it is for the two of them. In their eyes their must be a massive blue whale in the room. And how does one get to the point where they are frequently seen with their mistress in public? What if one of your cousins get to know about it, tell your other cousin, who tells your aunt who mentions it to your mummy?

Tuesday, June 30, 2009 7:27:00 AM  
Blogger Samborera said...

Ha ha. The thought of someone telling my mummy would terrify me for sure.

Tuesday, June 30, 2009 12:43:00 PM  

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