Thursday, January 08, 2009

two people, same domicile

i'd like to know what the determining factors are that decide if two people can strike up a decent, and actually enjoyable conversation. i'm not even talking about girl-boy chemistry type of conversation. just two people talking, person A and person B.

how is it possible that there are times when you can bump into a total stranger but somehow strike up an actual 'i'm-enjoying-this' conversation? and on the other hand, there are others who you interact with on a daily basis but can't think of a single thing to talk to them about? it's not that you don't want to, but you've tried and just couldn't be bothered to anymore.

i'm talking about living arrangements, not with family, not with friends, not with other half's, but with total strangers...in the ever-interesting 'flat-share' agreements. when two or more people agree to live in the same living quarters, not because you don't want to live by yourself, but because you can't afford to.

so, here's how the story goes, i've been living in this particular flat-share agreement with one other person for almost a year now, and this is what baffles me. first few months, it was hard for us to carry on a conversation for more than 5 minutes at any given time, which would be riddled with deafening awkward silences. a few months later, we had moved into the polite 'how was your day' phase. as for the last few months, it's just been reduced to 'hi'. and i just want to scream 'HOW IS THIS POSSIBLE' and better yet 'WHY ME'?

two people, same domicile, literally breathing in the same air...but 'hi' is all i get after a long hard day.

as luck may or may not have it, i just got word my rent is being increased, so it's that dreaded time in my life yet again when i have to move...but this time round, i'm actually looking forward to it, in this case it's 'better the angel i don't know, than the devil i do'...so i've found a new place and i move next week. this time round with more than just one other person in the household....i didn't want to take the chance

this time next week, i get to delete yet another number from my phone book and won't feel a thing....no regret, no loss, no void, nothing

two people, same domicile, strangers when we met, strangers when we'll part

4 Comments:

Blogger Samborera said...

I take it there are no SQ's or extensions in those parts.

Thursday, January 08, 2009 9:57:00 PM  
Blogger googler said...

I sure wish there were...it would make my life so much easier!

Thursday, January 08, 2009 10:19:00 PM  
Blogger 0.5 said...

What a pleasant surprise. Thought we had lost Googler for good. About no conversation, don't really mind it that much. As long as each one of you has their own DVD player and TV, cause I can easily smack someone for interrupting during "The Outer Limits" (grin)

Chemistry is not something that you can cultivate, either its there or its not. When I realize we can't talk for five minutes, i rarely bother. Chin up, not alone in this one.

Friday, January 09, 2009 10:05:00 AM  
Blogger googler said...

hey 0.5! thanks for the words of wisdom as they've helped appease any guilt i may have been feeling, i totally agree though, chemistry is either there or it's not.

hehehe as for the other part, if anyone knew the number of movies/series's i've watched this year, i'd actually receive an award.

Friday, January 09, 2009 5:42:00 PM  

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