Does a man have any rights
I saw a piece last week on CNN about a guy who had gone to court seeking not to be compelled to support a child he'd had with his now obviously ex girlfriend. His defence? He'd discussed the issue of kids with her and ostensibly made it clear that he didn't wish to have any at the time. Somehow, the chic got paged and had a baby. Apparently, he feels that the woman, having the right to do whatever she wants with her body, can choose to keep or terminate a pregrancy and the man with whom conception was achieved has to live with this decision. This particular guy probably doesn't want anything to do with his child, emotionally or financially, but the point is still moot.
Entrapment by pregnanancy [real or feigned] is something women have done in the past, and surprisingly, continue to do. What if a couple conceives and the woman wants to terminate the pregnancy while the man doesn't? [Humour me] Does the guy have any say in the matter or is he only good for providing the ingredients. Given, it's the woman who'll carry the baby to term and do most of the caring for the child, but the father will be expected to provide for the child. A situation where men don't take up their responsibilities shouldn't be encouraged, and it is in matters such as this that I envy our ancestral societies of days gone by. Where kids belonged to the greater society and were cared for as such. [at least if my primary G.H.C teacher is to be believed]
I don't think this guy will win though. There's a whole micro-economy based on child support payments. That can't be allowed to collapse. The thought of men being 'free' from any responsibility after the soon-thereafter-to-be-mandatory-before-sex disclaimer "I don't want a kid" will also make the judge think twice before upholding the guy's point of view.
P.S: A friend of mine narrated a tale about this paranoid guy who follows the following regime, without exception.
1. Before sex, take a HIV test. [He'll provide the test kit]
2. During sex, use a condom.
3. After sex, take those morning-after type pills.
For him, it's a case of once bitten thrice shy.
Disclaimer: This is not a response to a couple of YAMPs [Yet Another Male-bashing Post] that Shiroh has been engaging in.
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That is yet another FEMALE OPPRESSING POST (FOP)
FOP! FOP! FOP!
Well anyway, this is really hard to comment on because its sad that men can't do anything if a woman decides to abort his child but then also if a woman decides to have the child they have to pay support.. the fair thing would be that women accept that if men have to pay child support then they ned to have a say in whether the woman can abort, if the women want abortion to be their own decison then they should be ready to bring up a child on their own... Well I supposed it would all be simplified by men and women waiting to have sex until they are legally married then all parties are protected somewhat
Marriege will not help. That wonderful woman who swore before God and man to love and to hold till death do us part. Will change her mind after some years and the guy is stuck with alimony. Read some article a few years back that indicated that some woman who a jamaa just happened to be married to can even claim part of a guys inheritance.
So a jamaa is just f**kd.
Why give your life seed to a damsel that:
(a) you wouldn't want having your child
(b) wouldn't want to have your child
I think it's a choice on both sides. I need to carefully choose where, and how, I send off my unmentionable troops to avoid the situations described...
Wazi Milo,
Why give your seed to someone who you would not want their child?
D.shy - I'm sweating from the heat of the spotlight you've put on me. Not at all fair. Anyway. My thoughts.
We are different. Men and women. Ask VB. On this particular matter, men and women can't have the same rights. The woman bears way more responsibility, and as such should have greater rights.
"fooled into falling in love with someone they thought was a successful solvent business man"
What? Am I the only one finding this statement absolutely hilarious? Do you love the guy or the stuff he has/is likely to get. Who's fooling who.
Ed wrote about this...I placed my comments there..I won't bother here. You need to get a grip on this one dude.
Will do. As soon I find Ed. Who's Ed.
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