the send off.
We are outside the house, there is a nice fire going. Parts of one unfortunate goat are turning brown over the said fire. There are 5 introverteds. The rest are medical doctors.
No one is 30 yet. Most, infact, are very far from it. Yet in this bunch, there are some people who can cut out your liver, juggle it with their hands as one Michuki can do, and sew it back in. A very chilling thought.
A very smart bunch. Professional.
Beers are passed around as people make small conversation. Two lovely ladies join the party and make way to where the action is. Introductions are made all round.
After a short while, I hear one lady ask our gracious host:
Where are all these guys' girlfriends?
The host replies that it is a sort of a boys night out. Which is the truth, but it is not complete.
The question reverberates in my head. It occurs to me, that no one is in a steady relationship here. The lady who asked the question has some serious insight. There are no girlfriends to speak of. Perhaps only women whose relationships to the people at the party cannot be easily defined. Perhaps, it seems odd to the inquirer that we can have a party and not be bothered to string some sort of girlfriend along, or worse, that there are no girlfriends at all.
With no one making a move on the girls (or so it seemed), conversation became very lively. Time just flew by. 4 years ago, there is a possibility that a phenomenon called 'race conditions' would have occurred; By the time I left, no numbers were requested. None were given.
Interesting.
posted by 0.5 @ 08:03
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That's the first thing that I noticed when I checked in; that there were no chics, and more importantly, that nobody seemed bothered. Interesting indeed.
WHAT?!! Okay unless some aliens checked in and stole all y'alls interest in women...WTH? Is it that people have become sooo unbothered with relationships that you don't even make an effort to try and hook up or what? explain
The interest in women is there, no doubt.
The truth of the matter is that relationships are taxing;
A man has got to a lot to prove to get into one. The bar is way up there.
There is a lot of adjustment to be done, a lot of pressure on both parties.
Soon enough, one does not get unduly disturbed by the fact that there is no girlfriend around, and breezes through life at a leisurely pace.
It is something that women do all the time (different reasons though).
But it so happens that sometimes in a gathering such as the one I described, guys just relax and want the ladies to enjoy the party and the collective company.
Interest is indeed there. I've always been a commitment phobe so not pursuing relationships isn't news for me. What's changed is that I'm more at ease with myself about the whole thing and my single status. Apart from the occasional bouts of longing to call long deleted numbers, I'm easy.
@0.5: mmhhh tres interesant! One gal was overheard saying that she there's too much work involved in a starting a new realtionship that she would rather stay with who she is.
I guess this applies to both single people and partnered ones as well.
I agree with you on teh party setting. There's nothing as horrible as a man hounding you the whole night when you are clearly not interested in him.
@Samborera: You! a commitment phobe?! That explain a WHOLE LOT!!
I do beleive in taking time out and getting to know yourself better.
Yeah it's fun being on the single train but sometimes the ride has to stop and you gotta change trains.
No you don't. Not if you are not comfortable making the switch.
One of the reasons people have disjoint relationships is because of a persisitent, sinking feeling that time is running out. When that feeling sets in, the next thing is you hook up with the next woman or man who comes along and wonder down the road what were you thinking.
There is not an awful lot one can control in this lifetime, but who you partner with is one of those things that indeed you can control.
Perhaps if people stop getting into wholesale, mad commitment stampedes, therefore taking their time to thoroughly screen their prospective partners, then society will gradually come to accept that it is okay and safe to wait;
Firstly, three of the non-introverteds there have steady galfriends (have been seeing them for the last 2 years or so) and two have wives. They just chose to leave them at home, as they always do.
But is there anything special about that evening other than the venue. When guys hang out on Friday and Sato evenings dont they alway turn up bila chiks and leave bila chiks (at least most of the time). In my mind, all of you like the way you live and since galfriends would infringe on your lifestyles' you are not interested in procuring any.
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